Friendship & Fruit

Different people serve different functions in your life. Many bring out different versions of you. My anthropology lectures at university taught me that we are friends with people because of what they can do for us. Many will instantly think this means material stuff however; a lot of it is to do with the makeup of who we are. Each friend helps to define our character or add to it. They all serve different functions. If your friends do not add to your growth, your happiness or your wellbeing, then they must take a new direction without you in it.

Everyone needs a friend like Apple. Apple showed me a different way to live. I knew the main roads yet Apple showed me all the back roads and the shortcuts to life.

Avocado is fierce, blunt, honest and strong. Avocado’s ability to see things for what they are and apply logic enables you to see another side without emotion. Avocado keeps the balance in the universe.

Blueberries inspires hope. Blueberries is a real life hopeless romantic. Honestly, it’s actually very cute. Some shy away from love when the reality is, we all want and need it.

Cherry is a fu*king queen, has so much grace and is the woman I aspire to be. Extremely intelligent, hardworking and motivating. Any guy would be lucky to have Cherry.

Coconut reminds me of how fearless and reckless you need to be in life. Coconut’s ‘I don’t give a fu*k attitude’ is something I wish to apply in my everyday life. Coconut has so much courage and determination to always get the things she wants.

Grapefruit is a true hustler and if they do not become a billionaire, then this life we live is fake. An opportunist that always finds loopholes in the system, I hope my unborn children have Grapefruit’s mentality.

Guava has taught me to be myself. Know my worth, cancel and hire individuals.

Kiwi has taught me confidence and to love my long legs. Taught me to speak highly of myself, to know and understand that I am indeed the catch.

Lime has shown me how to compromise and communicate effectively. Lime is very patient with me and always tries to understand me. Lime calms me down and constantly reassures me, by reminding me of my capabilities.

Lychee is a representation of selfless love. Lychee puts others first, is caring, has maternal attributes and is always speaking highly of me. Lychee is literally the definition of peace. This is the type of mother I’d like to be.

Having a good network around you is truly a blessing; all that should come from any relationship is mostly love. The people you surround yourself with, should always make you feel good and allow your spirit to be at ease. You would be doing a disservice to yourself if you do not surround yourself with people who see the best in you, want the best for you and are at their best around you.

My journey with friendship began some years ago. I had to let go of two individuals who I thought would stay on this road we call life. Eliminating them was the best choice I made, as it left room for me to give my time only to those who respect me and want the best for me. People do not realise how much bad energy can be extremely draining mentally and physically. Being surrounded by people who aren’t the best for you requires you to always put on a mask or a suit. One thing I came to realise is that you can only pretend for so long. Eventually the cracks always show.

***Enter > all the people that have drained me in my life > the worst fruits, least favourite fruits > describe them.***

Prune made me question everybody’s intentions and made me doubt myself.

Raisin was insecure and projected a lot. Raisin made me realise how conflicted people can be within themselves. Sometimes bad characteristics can overshadow the good.

Cantaloupe made me feel uneasy. I could never really be myself or express myself around them.

Banana stunted my growth. I knew I was capable of so much more and they knew this too.

Watermelon had baggage and never really dealt with issues as a result, they expected me to carry their load.

Pomegranate was extremely negative. They could never see the good in life and always put a dapper on my mood.

The truth is we may have all been bad fruits to someone. Everyone we interact with affects us in numerous ways. We adopt each other's mannerism without knowing sometimes.

Good fruits and bad fruits are both necessary. It has taught me to pick and choose carefully which parts to take from people. I say this because toxic situations make you toxic. I think we all underestimate bad characteristics in friendships and tend to hold on to either the memories or the longevity of the friendship. We tend to weigh up what a friend has done for us or even the characteristics a friend may have; good or bad.

Friendship is a two way street. Water each other. Be inspired as opposed to leaving a bitter taste.

C O N S I D E R . . .

Mind - Your mind deserves to be at ease. If a friend makes you feel uneasy. Bin them or talk about it...

Body - Go where you are celebrated. Call all your friends and go and do what you enjoy.

Soul - Take a second to digest every vibe you get from each friend. Ask yourself how do they make me feel?

source: Google

Ps: I hate bananas, the fruit that is

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